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Add joy to your life!

2010-07-23T20:57:00Z

The “secret” Law of Attraction has been all the rage for several years. People look at it as a way to manifest what they want in their lives. They use it to manifest more money, their soul mate, weight loss, a new job, a new car and/or a new home. The Law of Attraction does work as long as your beliefs are in harmony with what you want to manifest. What people who first learn about the Law of Attraction sometimes forget is it’s our thoughts and feelings that attract things to us. The universe always answers “Yes” to our feelings. If I constantly complain about how much weight I have to lose, the universe will answer “Yes” and I will continue to hold onto those unwanted pounds. The body would just be following my “orders”. If, on the other hand, I talk about all the things I have to be grateful for and that feeling of gratitude pours forth from my heart, the universe will answer “Yes” but this time it will give me more things to appreciated. It’s my positive emotion that will attract the positive experiences into my life.

The key to having more of what you want in your life is to focus on your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions. Make sure your thoughts and feelings match the results you want. If you want positive results, you have to feel, act and talk positively. If you want more things to worry about, focus on limitation, lack, illness or any other negative. And, you have to believe the Law of Attraction works to have it kick into action in your life. You have to trust it to work without you having to do any contortions. It's like being pregnant: either you aren't. Either you trust the Law of Attraction completely or you don't.

So if you are a believer in the Law of Attraction, add joy to life and you’ll experience more joy. What can you do today to add joy to your own life, to the lives of others, or to the world at large? Can you smile at a stranger, let somebody in front of you in the grocery store line if they only have a few items and you have a huge basket of groceries or compliment a family member on how well they did something. If your are expressing joy, you can’t also be angry because you can only focus on one emotion at a time and you get to choose which emotion that’s going to be. Choose joy!

To the extent that you add true, unencumbered joy to your own life, you more fully become the unique and valuable person that you are. And, if you believe in the Law of Attraction, the joy that you add to the lives of others, comes back to you over and over again.

What makes you tingle with pure delight? What can you do right now to experience that joy? How can you spread it to others? Find a way, and you've tapped a powerful force that will bring abundant rewards.

Living with joy honors and affirms the priceless value of life. Celebrate and make the most of each moment by living and giving joy and you will truly know the secret to living a happier life.

Your new life starts now!

2010-07-21T21:01:00Z

Happy birthday! As the saying goes, "Today is the first day of the rest of your life" so it’s a day for celebration. You are born anew today. The past is over and the future is yet to come. There is only now.

Your new life starts today. You’ve been put in charge of it. You’ve been given complete control. It is fresh and new, waiting to be broken in. How it turns out is now up to you. Your choices and beliefs create your reality.

Today you have a blank slate. There are no limitations on how you can use this day. And don’t worry, you can’t make a mistake because if you don’t like today you’ll have another “birthday” tomorrow when you can make different choices, if you so desire. No choice is better than another is; it’s just different and leads to different experiences. Experiences are neutral; it’s our judgmental mind that determines if a choice is good or bad. Remember, “looks can be deceiving.” Some of my best days would look horrific from an outsider’s perspective but they were fantastic for me. For example,a few years ago when I was finally able to feed myself with a minimum of pain after having injured my arm months earlier and been more or less limited to drinking my meals. This was a triumphant day for me but somebody else might have experienced it as a horrible day because they felt pain.

The clock is running now. Your day has already begun. Though it seems today that you have plenty of time, the minutes will pass quickly, so take care not to squander them. In other words, there’s plenty of time to positive changes in your life, but not enough to waste.

This is your life. It’s not a test or a trial run. It’s the real thing, and it is here. It is a magnificent opportunity, and one which will not wait. This is your birthday. See it. Imagine it. Live it. Enjoy it. Make it great.

What do you want to do differently? Do you want to change the way you respond when you're angry, frustrated, disappointed or upset? Do you want to find more things for which you're grateful? Do you want to find more time to spend curled up with a good book or having heart-to-heart conversations with the important people in your life? Do you want to go back to school or change careers or plant a garden? Decide what you want to accomplish and then "just do it." Take the first step towards reaching the outcome you desire.

Each choice you make determines how you experience today, tomorrow and the future. Expect it to be a wonderful life filled with innumerable days and countless awe-inspiring people, places and events. Act according to that belief and, 365 days later when you reflect back on the year, that's just what you will have experienced. The quality of your life depends upon your choices from moment to moment to moment. Happy birthday dear soul. What do you want to do now?

"Weeding Out Fear"

2010-07-19T19:44:00Z

As a perpetual student of life, joyologist, happiness coach and practical person, I'm always looking for new ideas for myself and to share with others so they can get results more quickly. I have no need to "reinvent the wheel," so I pass along practical tips that I learn from my own studies. Yesterday I found a wonderful channeled message that contained the following exercise about how to weed fear out of your life. With all the fear that's rampant right now because of the economy, the oil spill, the predictions about "the end of the world," I thought we all could benefit from having a conscious action to take to move away from fear and back into peace. You have nothing to lose by trying the exercise, except fear. If you want to read the entire message, you can find it at: Arcturian Multi-Dimensionality Part 3 July15th | Lightworkers.org

Here's the exercise:

WEEDING OUT FEAR

First, identify a thought or emotion as fear. Check to see if this fear is a warning, which it usually is NOT. Then, say or think,

"This is just fear, and I REFUSE to participate!"

Then, think of something, anything, that you deeply love. It can be a person, place, situation or even a thing.

FEEL that love in your heart as you say, "I Choose LOVE!"

Then, touching your Heart Chakra FEEL your deepest gratitude for that love as you say,

"Thank you, thank you, thank you for this love."

Feel the love intermingled with the gratitude until the fear is totally gone from your consciousness. The LOVE replaces the fear and the GRATITUDE binds the love deep into your heart.

The above exercise will serve to rewrite the habitual, fearful thinking of your ego/self, by replacing it with the Love and Inner Power of your Soul/SELF. When you remember to do this exercise, your Soul/SELF takes control of your thoughts as it heals and releases all fear-based thoughts and emotions. Just as an antivirus identifies and deletes viruses from your computer, your Soul/SELF will happily identify and delete fear from your consciousness.

What do you expect?

2010-07-17T20:16:00Z

According to current metaphysical teachings, our thoughts and feelings magnetically draw to us those people and events that match our beliefs and expectations. About 10% of our beliefs are conscious and the remaining 90% are unconscious formed by our misinterpreting truths about past situations. To change our beliefs and improve the quality of our life, it's important to start by determining our expectations. We have to feel in our heart and gut that we have the power to change things for the better.

As scientific studies have proved, we have an impact on those things we give our attention to. Just by focusing on something differently, changes will occur. If you expect things to be difficult, they will be. In fact, you’ll look for “proof” to support your belief that life is difficult. If you expect miracles to happen in your life, you’ll look for “proof” to support that believe.

What expectation will you need if you to improve the quality of your life? What expectation will keep you stuck in a dead-end job or a demoralizing personal relationship? What will your life be like if you believe you’re too old or set in your ways to change? What would your life be like if you believe that you’ll always succeed because you’ll learn something from everything you experience? Expect the best from yourself and that’s what you’ll get. Expect the worse and you'll get it. The choice is yours.

As it happens, it is easy to change our expectations, in fact you can do it in an instant, and that can be a problem. Too often, we lower our expectations because that is easier than overcoming the obstacles that stand in the way of fulfilling those expectations. We don't get the education or training we need for the job we want. We cling to old grudges and stay stuck in the past instead of forgiving ourselves and others and moving forward with our lives. We allow other people's opinions about us and our own fears keep us from expecting the best from life.

Are you being forced to lower your expectations, or are you simply choosing the easy way out? You must expect the best in order to achieve the best, yet it takes more than just expectation. It takes effort and commitment. If you lower your expectations at the first sign of difficulty, it seriously erodes their value.

Don’t lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. Expect the best of yourself, and then do what is necessary to make it a reality.

As you experience more and more success, your beliefs about yourself will change. You'll feel better about your talents, abilities and future and wonder why it took you so long to realize you deserve and are entitled to expect your heart's desires to manifest.

One caveat: Your expectations must be for the highest good of all concerned and must be based in reality. Even if I expect my dog to sprout wings and fly like a bird, that's not going to happen. It defies the laws of nature. Even if I expect to become a brain surgeon, that's not going to happen unless I do the work and get the medical education and training. And I can't expect somebody else's behavior to change just because I want that person to be different. You can only control your own life. Others have dominion over their own expectations.

The power of words

2010-07-16T23:49:00Z

Have you ever had a disagreement with a family member, friend, co-worker or complete stranger and gotten frustrated because the other person just didn’t “get” what you were trying to say? I know I sure have. I’ve found that certain words shut down communication while others are keys to open communication.

Here are some words that shut down communication.

You’re wrong…

I never said that…

You should…

You must…

You always…

Can’t you…

Shut up…

When you start sentences with these words it’s as if you’re holding up a big red stop light because all positive communication stops and a game of “he said, she said” starts and never really ends. One party is trying to prove they are “right” which means they have to make the other party “wrong” and nobody really likes to be wrong. It’s as if you start the conversation with a closed mind and nothing the other person can say is going to change your mind. Neither party is really satisfied with the results and has to find a way to release the anger that is generated by closed communication. That can take the form of physical or emotional abuse, illness, depression, or addictions to name just a few.

On the other hand, if you want to really have close relationships and to feel good about yourself and others, you might consider using open phrases similar to the ones below. They are statements about how you feel or what you want. Nobody can tell you that you don’t want or need something because they are not you. They have not had your life experiences nor seen an event from the exact same point of reference as you did. Both of you filter your interpretation of an event through your own frames of reference.

Sentences that start with “I” or “Would” give the green light to continuing the conversation. You are just giving or asking for information. This takes the emotion out of the statement and allows the other party to stay neutral rather than to jump into a defensive mode. These opening phrases enable you to say exactly what is real for you.

I’ve noticed…

Is it OK with you…

Are you willing…

I have a need to…

I want…

I need…

I’d appreciate…

I’d prefer…

Would you please…

I’m curious…

Would you consider…

Choose your words carefully because they will either bring you closer to another or push them away. If you notice you used a “red light” word and didn’t mean to, an “I’m sorry” goes a very long way.

Make the world sparkle

2010-07-16T23:42:00Z

Everything you have done, and all that you have become, is on the line today. This is your opportunity to keep what you want, to learn from the rest, and to move forward as never before. You’re more experienced right now than you’ve ever been. You have a better knowledge of what works and what doesn’t. You’re more clear about what you want, and what you want to avoid. Today is your day to make the world sparkle.

As you go through this day, you carry a lifetime of growth and learning with you. You’re better prepared than ever before to seize the opportunities which come your way, and to turn your brilliant possibilities into reality. This very moment, there’s a new and improved you, designed and built for achievement, ready to go. Anything is possible, and your destiny is calling. The adventure is yours to live as never before. Don’t miss this chance to see how far you can go and, in the process, you'll make the world sparkle.

You’ll make the world sparkle by your delight and participation in it. You bring the world to life by your living each day. You give meaning to the words of others by listening to what they say.

All that you experience is a part of you, and you a part of it. You’re an active participant in the warm and shimmering reality of this day. This day, this world is yours and you are a vital part of it.

It is your experience, it is your joy, and it is your responsibility. Live it to the fullest.

Have you learned yet?

2010-07-13T01:55:00Z

Would you be willing to try to do something differently if you knew you couldn't fail? Guess what -- it's true. Every situation gives you an opportunity to learn something new about yourself or another. It gives you a new chance to decide what you want more of or less of in your life. It gives you the power to decide if your life is going to move forward or backward; staying the same isn't an option because everything in the universe is in a constant state of flux. Life is about continuous lifelong learning, not about achieving a goal. There will always be something new to learn. Once you've reached a long held goal, what are you going to do next? The world doesn't stop changing and presenting you with new lessons to learn once you've got the great job, the great relationship, the great home or any other transitory goal.

As long as you're learning, your life is headed in the right direction. That's not to say it will be easy but the probability of you living the life of your dreams increases when you are willing to take a risk and do something differently. What can possibly stop you from expanding your horizon and trying something new? Fear isn't a valid reason. Fear is a learned behavior for the most part and it keeps you stuck where you are instead of living a more joy-filled life. It holds you hostage and keeps you from having the freedom to create the wonderful life you deserve.

Be brave. Make conscious choices about how you want to live your life. Take baby steps until you've built up the inner strength to try a bigger leap of faith. Believe whole heartedly in what you’re doing. Focus on win/win situations where the highest good of all concerned is achieved.

Know that you succeed every time you venture out of your comfort zone and you'll transcend self-doubt and improve the quality of your life. Excuses become just a thing of the past when you have an unshakable belief in the value of your efforts and that value means you can see the benefit of whatever you're experiencing in you life. You are a success every time you learn something and your success grows when your apply what you've just learned to the next situation. Success builds upon success and it all starts by your willingness to see a situation differently.

The things you previously categorized as “good” or “bad” all take on a new definition—They become an opportunity to learn about yourself and others Everything serves to move you forward, when your commitments and efforts are in step with your convictions.

The way to truly believe in what you do, is to do what you truly believe in. Just remember, anger prevents you from being a healing force in someone else’s life and from having what you want in your own life. It causes you to focus on the differences that divide people instead of the similarities that unite people. It is a waste of time and energy to try and adjust your beliefs to fit your circumstances. How can you accomplish anything when you’re working against yourself? Effectiveness, success and fulfillment come when you adjust your circumstances to fit your positive beliefs. That is most certainly a challenge, and one that is well worth the effort.

Believe that every experience is a learning experience and your view of life will change. See yourself as being successful, believe that you are a success, do the things a successful person would do and you'll truly know deep in your heart that you really are a success. Success is as much a matter of attitude as it is of circumstances. As long as you're learning and applying what you learn, you're a success!

Look for the "gift" in all situations

2010-06-16T23:29:00Z

I approach life with the underlying assumption that we are here for a reason and all our adventures on earth are a part of learning to express that high purpose which is to be as loving as possible in every situation. Knowing we have a purpose enables us to look for and find the “gift” in all situations and to realize that there will always be another lesson to learn. It's never too late to improve a situation. All we have to do is to be willing to see things from another's point of view and to act accordingly.

One example from my life is when my mother had triple by-pass surgery in her late 80s. My mother and I were never close and I was scared she'd die before we mended our relationship. Not knowing what the outcome would be of her surgery, I decided to stop battling with her. I took responsibility for the arsenal of stockpiled anger I aimed towards her for most of my life. I forgave myself for holding on to childhood grievances because, when I was little, I didn't know I had an option. As an adult, I was able to see my role in every anger-filled situation. And I finally forgave her for what I perceived as her “wrongs.” At the same time, I realized that her personality was only a very small part of her. In her heart she was a divine soul who only wanted to be loved and appreciated. She just didn’t know how to get what she wanted and her behavior was caused by that lack of awareness. I was just like her. I wanted to be loved and accepted and thought that I had to fight to get it. When I realized my error in logic, I decided to see my mom through the eyes of love and her eyes reflected love back to me. So my mom's heart surgery resulted in a healing of both of our hearts. I don't know if it would have taken place without her heart surgery. God works in mysterious ways!

Our task is to develop our awareness of Spirit's presence in all situations and draw it forth as the predominant element of our consciousness. It's much easier said than done. Like mastering any new skill, the development of faith takes practice, and that is what this life is for. Our world is but a laboratory in which we experiment with different attitudes and experiences until we learn that love is the only one that works. As we go through times of testing, it helps to remember that there's a gift in every situation if we are willing to let go of our need to be "right."

It's said "problems are the doors through which we walk to peace." To move beyond what appears to be a challenge, we must hold the awareness that everything that comes to us can potentially work in our favor. Our thoughts are the keys that open the door to the storehouse of blessings. We can transform the lead of our pain into the gold of our enlightenment if we are willing to "expect a miracle."

Our job is to put our love out there and live our truth. The universe will take care of the rest. Our pain comes when we do not give love. We were born to love. We function most powerfully when we are giving love. The world has led us to believe that our well-being is dependent on other people loving us. But this is the kind of upside-down thinking that has caused so many of our problems. The truth is that our well-being is dependent on our giving love. It is not about what comes back; it is about what goes out.

Every one has a core self that is perfect – our essential core is peaceful and whole and is unconditional love. The work of healing is in peeling away the barriers of fear and past conditioning that keep us unaware of our true nature of wholeness and love. When we identify with that inner core, respecting and honoring it in others as well as ourselves, we experience healing in every area of life.

People and events aren't here to be labeled or judged, but experienced and learned from. We don't need to divide life into either's or or's; we can see the richness of it all. Then we discover an infinite range of hues, depth, and intensity that make our journey joyful. As Carlos Castaneda’s Don Juan explained, "All paths lead nowhere, but those who follow the path with heart will bless their journey."

We see what we want to see.

2010-06-05T00:46:00Z

Yikes! I've been revamping my website so it better reflects who I am and the numerous benefits I offer new as well as existing coaching clients. I really want to be of service to more people and to help them experience happier and more fulfilling lives. As a result, I have to get the word out about my skills, abilities and experience and my website is one of the methods I've chosen to use.

I'm not a tech kind of person and patience isn't one of my best or most developed characteristics. Because of my wanting results and wanting them yesterday, being my own website designer and editor was very challenging.

Last night I was proud of myself for completing and publishing my updated site (www.bestcoach4u.com). A few minutes ago I checked it out, eager to see how many hits it had gotten and, OOOOPS, I found I made a big error. On my home page, in the opening sentence I had a glaring error. In my head my initial sentence read, "Can you say 'yes' to any of the following questions?" In reality it said, "Can you can 'yes' to any of the following questions?" Last night I saw what I wanted to see: an updated website, another item to cross off my To Do List.  Because "say" and "can" are both three letter words with the letter "a" in the middle, my eyes flew over the word without my actually seeing it. I wanted to see it as complete so that's what I did. As a result, I got to spend a few minutes today correcting my mistake.

This experience has actually served a good purpose. It's reminded me of some basics about life. Here are a few of them.

* Everybody makes mistakes. Instead of being mortified as I would have been in the past, I just made the correction and shrugged off the error. One mistake doesn't define who I am. Rehashing my error and chastising myself for making it or labeling myself with a negative moniker has no value. It just takes a big toll on my self-esteem. The error was made. I made it. I forgave myself for making it. Nobody's perfect and it's a waste of time trying to be or to define myself by the number of errors I make.

I'm still as smart, talented, compassionate, and creative as I was before my mistake. If I worry what other people might think of me because of my tiny error, I give them the power to determine how I feel about myself and that's a huge price to pay for a silly mistake caused by my eagerness to share my talents with others. It also keeps me tethered to my error instead of free to discover and develop other skills that I have. If I don't allow myself to make mistakes, I don't allow myself to experience new things and to grow. And, in my opinion, life is about continuous growth, continuous improvement with no end in sight.

* The Law of Attraction applies to mistakes. According to the Law of Attraction, you get more of what you focus on. So, if I focus on my errors and allow them to determine my self-worth, I will find more and more things that I could have done differently. And, if finding errors make me feel bad about myself, I will be in a constant state of disappointment and locked into a downward spiral because, more likely than not, there will be spelling errors, grammatical errors, errors of judgment and a multitude of other mistakes. Why would I want to constantly focus on something that's going to make me unhappy?

As a joyologist, that's the antithesis of the way I want to feel and interact with the world. I want to be uplifting and to do so I have to start with myself. I have to walk my talk. So I made the conscious choice to learn from last night's mistake and to share what I've learned with others. That way I feel positive about myself and I will attract more opportunities to see what I do right as compared to what I do wrong.

* Focus on doing what you enjoy doing and allow experts to do what they enjoy doing. Making decisions based upon my ego doesn't always produce positive results. I don't have to be an expert at everything and there are ways to get assistance that don't involve money. In the situation with my website, I could have bartered with a website designer or a copy editor. I could have done some success coaching in exchange for help advertising my services in the best possible light. That would have been a win/win outcome and everybody involved would have had positive experiences. In addition, having the assistance of a subject matter expert would have imbued my site with not only my positive vibes but also the positive vibes of the expert. Lesson learned!

* Slow down. Life is about the journey, not the destination. There was no reason to hurry. I set an arbitrary deadline based upon an underlying assumption that there's a limited number of potential clients. Because of all the sales and marketing materials I'd read and webinars I've attended, I convinced myself that, the sooner I got the word out about my coaching practice, the sooner I'd get a very large portion of those potential clients and the sooner I'd become more abundant. As a result of this faulty logic, I created unnecessary tension and worry for myself.

In actuality, there are more than enough clients and resources to go around. As a solo partitioner, what's limited is the number of hours in the day that I am willing to dedicate to working with clients, not the number of potential people to serve. To be truly happy, I need a balance between work and play. If my life is in balance, I truly love mentoring others. If it's out of balance, some of my less admirable qualities come to the surface and that's not fair to my clients nor to me.

In addition, I realized that happiness and abundance are as much a function of attitude as the amount of money in a checking account. It's about feeling grateful for everything that I currently have and slowing down enough to enjoy the simple things in life.  It's about having the freedom to make choices about how to use my time in a way that allows me to experience the blessings that come from being alive.

In reference to my website, if I'd saved my updates so I could review them later or, even better, so I could have somebody else review them before they were published, I could have enjoyed the creative process more and it probably would have involved less effort. I also would have saved time that I could have used in ways that bring me joy. I could have spent some time out of doors, enjoying the beauty of mother nature. I could have had a leisurely lunch and savored each morsel. I could have called a friend or meditated or done a variety of other things that make me feel good. I could have slowed down and appreciated my life now instead of waiting to experience it in the future, assuming I was mentally and/or physically able to do so and willing to do things at a slower pace.

There will always be something else that needs to get done but the key is to be fully present with the task at hand and to understand how your choices about the project influence how you feel about yourself and your life.  See your situation as it is, not as you want it to be, and act accordingly. In my case, that involved seeing the error I made on my website, correcting the error, learning from it and sharing my experience with you to shorten your learning curve. I hope it's helped you to see that there is value in everything -- even mistakes.

I am not my job title!

2010-05-27T23:46:33Z

More than 20 years ago when I was unexpectedly laid off for the first time, I learned many valuable lessons. I learned that my happiness wasn't determined by my job title, the amount of money I had in the bank, what kind of car I drove, or the number of hours I spent reading self-help books. My happiness was an inside job. It was determined by my beliefs, conditioning, experiences. I also learned that "bad things happen to good people" and that it was my inner dialogue that determined if I saw the glass as half full or half empty. Being single and self-supporting, I didn't like being laid off but, in retrospect, I'm very grateful for the experience. It made me a more compassionate person and changed the way I view myself and the world.

After trying to land a new job for weeks without any luck, I decided to work as a temp. I worked as a receptionist, a human resources specialist, a clerk who verified the math for estimators working on government contracts and had a variety of other titles. Every few days or weeks I wore a different hat which determined how I was treated. Having a Master's Degree and having held an upper management position prior to the lay off, I found it interesting that, when I performed a clerical function, others perceived me as being less than I was. Two weeks before I was treated with great respect because I was a district training manager for a national telecommunications company and two weeks later some how I lost all my intelligence, knowledge, training and experience. Yet, I was exactly the same person.

Having been actively pursuing my personal and spiritual development before and after my lay off, I had a wonderful opportunity to reevaluate my own long-held beliefs about job titles. I realized that I was just as guilty of stereotyping people based upon their job titles. I only saw the function a person was performing and assumed that the job titled defined the person. It didn't.

For eight hours a day, somebody might make widgets and then go home and be responsible for the well being of a family and, in that capacity, be a wonderful problem solver, leader, fund raiser, accountant, mechanic, engineer, cook, decorator, teacher...the list goes on. A person's job title is only one iota of who that person is and what he or she is capable of doing and being.

People are all the same no matter what position they hold in an organization or if they're unemployed or retired. We all want to be loved, valued, appreciated, understood, accepted and treated with respect. We all get scared, we all get disappointed, we all get envious and we all make the best choices we can at any given point in time based upon the information we have.

Nobody wakes up in the morning with the intention of having the worst day possible. We wake up with the hope that things will be better today than they were the day before. We may have different job titles but we all have the same job description...to be our unique selves and to allow others to do the same. If we stay focused on our humanity and what we have in common instead of defining status based upon our ego's assumptions about job titles, each of us would be happier and we'd be closer to creating heaven on earth.

Relationships take work!

2010-05-26T17:28:00Z

No matter if your relationship is with a dog, a gal pal, a parent, a boss or a lover, ALL relationships take work. That's their purpose. They are the grinding stones that enable us to see our many facets and our own brilliance. From my point of view, relationships help us to define what we want more or less of in our lives and that's a moving target since we change constantly. The better the relationship, the more work it takes!

If we view everything as a learning opportunity with the underlying assumption that we can't stop changing, life becomes more of an adventure. We are empowered to decide the direction we want our life to go by deciding how much work we're willing to put into our relationships. Once the "big bang" happened, we all were put into forward motion and, even if we drag our feet, change will always occur. As they say, "You can't put the genie back into the bottle." As long as you are alive, you will be in relationships -- with yourself, your environment and other people.

The only constant in relationships is that nothing stays the same forever, no matter how "good" or "bad" it is. Our problems don't go away once we find our life partner, the perfect job, the great place to live, our dream car or anything else. No matter how smart we are, we can't control outcomes that involve other people. We can only control our choices and our responses to other people's choices and/or to chance occurrences.

If we let go of judgment and attachment to specific outcomes in our relationships, make decisions from our heart instead of our head, and stay focused in the "now" rather than the past/future, we will experience more joy and less stress in our lives. However, we will never be 100% challenge free because we need challenge/stress to evolve. And, in my opinion, that's a good thing.

The path to joy and contentment is filled with rough patches but that just makes each step foward all the more rewarding since we build our self-confidence and our decision making muscles. The quality of our relationships is the direct result of our conscious and unconscious choices. The quality of our life is the direct result of the quality of our relationships.

To determine how much effort you are willing to put into any given relationship, ask youself a few questions: Does this relationship make me feel good/bad about myself? Can I be my authentic self, warts and all, when I'm with this person or group of people? What areas of my personality might need a bit of tweaking based upon feedback from more than one individual? What old beliefs and patterns about relationships (i.e. parent/child, boss/employee, husband/wife, friend/friend, etc.) no longer serve me? Am I willing to change my mind and admit I may have played a part in a problem I'm experiencing? What do I gain/lose by staying angry or not forgiving myself and/or the other person? Can I let go of controlling situations and allow them to evolve? Do I want to be right or happy?

No matter what answers you find, they will be the perfect ones for you at this time and they will determine the quality of your present relationships. There will be a bit of discomfort no matter what you choose to do but view the feelings and emotions that surface as fertilizer that helps your life to bloom beautifully. To quote an old saying, "no pain, no gain."

Letting Go

2010-03-21T21:31:00Z

A few minutes ago, I finished packing items to donate to Goodwill and I'm feeling so much lighter. I let go of good "stuff" such as: a Coach bag and matching wallet that was donated to me by a friend when I was living on unemployment and food stamps; 3 turtleneck sweaters that I've had for more than 15 years and kept because I might want to wear them someday (not likely since I live in Arizona) plus they still fit; 3 inexpensive "pretty" watches that were just taking up space in my jewelry box and actually caused a rash on my wrist whenever I wore them; a sweatshirt given to by the sales manager at the Pointe South Mountain after putting on a huge sales training event with an accompanying trade show for a company whose values and ethics were different than mine. As I put each item into the donation bag, I also let go of the history associated with them.

A Facebook entry I posted earlier today was the inspiration for my Spring cleaning. I wrote: "Success tip: Don't be afraid to let go of what no longer serves you. The old must be released so that the new can enter. When something is empty, there's room for the new to fill the void. If you do this enough times, it's no longer scary; it becomes an exciting adventure."

I decided it was time for me to follow my own advice. I realized I was holding on to things because of the dreaded "what ifs" -- what if I don't have the money to get something better, what if I need this in the future and don't have it, what if I feel poor because my closet is empty, what if a friend asks me why I'm not using something they gave me, etc.

I also realized I was holding on to the me that I was when I originally got those things -- the me that's long gone and replaced by a "better" version. The items held my old energy and belief patterns -- ones that no longer serve me and keep me from manifesting my heart's desires. They were filled with feelings of fear, lack, anger, jealousy, resentment and a variety of other less than positive feelings. Every time I looked into my closet and saw one of the items that are on their way to a new home, old memories and feelings were triggered. And those memories and feelings became as real as they were the first time I experienced them. Who needs that?

Because I believe in the Law of Attraction, I had an "ah ha moment" -- keeping things that are not in harmony with my current vibration only keeps me stuck in the past, attracting "more of the same." If I want to continue to grow and make positive changes in my life, I have to let go of anything that does not bring me joy, a feeling of prosperity, contentment or satisfaction. I have to let go of the old to make room for the new. I have to release my past and to make room for a brighter future. And, I have to do it with intention.

So, I started the process by cleaning my closet and it felt great! I realized my abundance (I have so much more than I actually require or use) and delighted in the fact that the things I no longer need now will be blessings in other people's lives. In fact, I intentionally put a penny in the purse and 2 wallets so the new owners will have good luck. As I said goodbye to my clothing and jewelry, I set the intention that they would make somebody else feel more abundant. I'm so grateful that I can be of service to others in this very small way.

I feel so much lighter, freer, more empowered by letting go of "stuff" that does not add value to my life. It's funny, but the fewer things I have, the more prosperous I feel. I know, in my heart, that I'll always have more than enough in my life in any given moment. By letting go of feelings associated with things, I've made room for new feelings and experiences to manifest in my life. Because I'm happier than I was before, those things will be even better than what I had in the past. Like attracts like.

Now it's time to let go of conscious and unconscious beliefs that have kept me stuck in the past. That will take a bit longer than gathering things for Goodwill but the results will be even more dramatic and life altering. I'm looking forward to the adventure.

It doesn't get any better than this!

2010-03-19T00:33:00Z

About an hour ago, I was sitting outside, under a gazebo, in 80 degree breezy weather with a dog on my lap and another one beside me. I was reverently looking around me at the wonders of nature: a hill covered with yellow Lady Bank's roses; crystal clear blue sky (a rarity here in Scottsdale); lush green grass that seemed to be growing as I was admiring it; birds playing hide and go seek in the hollows of cacti; the scent of orange blossoms wafting from the neighbor's trees mixed with the scent of fresh rosemary from the planters around the pool; pansies, daisies, and petunias of every color looking as if they were posing -- awaiting a talented artist to capture their glory. The more I looked, the more wonders revealed themselves to me and I felt extremely grateful. As I was rubbing the dog's tummy I thought, "Life doesn't get any better than this!"

If I was a billionaire many times over, I couldn't have spent my time more perfectly. I felt connected to God and Mother Earth as well as the animal, vegetable and mineral kingdoms -- I was lacking nothing. I was so full of joy, gratitude and awe that there wasn't even the tiniest speck of emptiness in any cell of my being. I was relaxed, blissful and extremely appreciative.

Why am I sharing this with you? It's to inspire you to make positive choices so you can experience bliss even before you achieve some long-range goal. You can experience it in the midst of uncertainty -- one moment at a time. I wanted to remind you that happiness, joy, satisfaction and peace come from within. They are the result of our thoughts and perceptions. When you are willing to change your thoughts, a whole new spectrum of beauty and new opportunities become available to you.

By the way, I was only outside for about 15 minutes. The backyard I was in doesn't actually belong to me nor do the dogs or the vegetation but, while I was outside they were mine. I "owned" the experience. I took in every iota of the beauty around me and repaid Mother Nature's generosity with gratitude. I was fully present in each moment and each one was divine. I wasn't thinking about the pain in multiple locations in my body, worrying about how bills would be paid, measuring myself against some arbitrary standard for beauty or intelligence, trying to change the world so it followed "my" rules or doing anything other than fully experiencing the wonders around me.

I made a conscious choice to give my ego and my critical mind the afternoon off. The result was getting to feel contented knowing "life doesn't get any better than this."

Wish Lists

2010-03-06T20:37:00Z

On my desk, to the left of my computer, I have my 2010 Wish List of what I intend to manifest in my personal and professional lives so that my life will be easier, happier and more satisfying. It includes such specific things as: getting a sofa for my home office as well as a new laptop before my existing one no longer functions; hiring a virtual assistant to do sales and marketing for me in addition to editing and creating e-books and other products for me to sell; attending workshops by Jim Self, Jo Dunning and others and personally giving seminars on spirituality in the work place, hiring and keeping good employees in addition to focusing my private coaching practice on spiritual awakening, empowerment, stress management, and leadership development. My 2010 Wish List also includes acquiring new personal qualities and skills such as: having the courage to be my authentic self and to speak my truth with loving kindness; treating myself with that same loving kindness; questioning and releasing old beliefs that no longer serve me. And the list goes on...

This year my Wish List is in the form of a handwritten document. In previous years it's been in the form of Law of Attraction based vision boards (consisting of pictures and words cut from magazines representing my goals) which I mounted on the walls in my office, affirmation cards posted in strategic locations to remind me of what I intend to accomplish within a 12 month period. In 2008 I went high tech and purchased software to create 8.5" x 11" portable versions of wishes for various areas of my life. No matter what the form, the purpose for my Wish List was the same -- to identify and focus my attention and actions on what I believed would bring me joy, prosperity and success.

I just glanced at my current Wish List and noticed that items that were listed in previous years are still in evidence this year. That got me thinking: What would my life be like if I got everything I wished for? Would manifesting my heart's desires truly make me happy or was happiness an ever moving target and did the joy come from the quest more that the actual acquisition of the prize?

After mulling over the questions, I came to the conclusion that, for me, happiness is a state of mind and I can be happy whether things on my list manifest or not. In fact, I discovered that I've gained as much from NOT manifesting things as I did from getting them.

If I got everything I that appeared on my list by or before the end of the year, then what? I wouldn't be in a permanent state of bliss, frozen in time. The world would not stop spinning on its axis; political and economic events would still occur over which I would have no control; and I might be in conflict with friends, family members or business associates who have things on their own Wish Lists that would be in opposition to the ones on mine. Getting everything on my list wouldn't make me less angry with drivers who tailgate or neighbors who play music at a volume that rattles my windows. It wouldn't make me happier when a family member is sick or injured. It wouldn't enable me to bring harmony to waring factions around the globe nor would I be able to control Mother Nature and keep earthquakes or violent weather patterns from happening.

I've found that to be happy I have to decide the direction I want my life to go, without any sense of attachment to the outcome nor the timing of events, and then take positive action in that direction. My 2010 Wish List keeps me focused and helps me to make choices. Does doing X bring me closer or farther than from my goal? If the answer is closer, I move forward. If the answer is farther, I reevaluate the situation. My happiness is the result of my choices and actions.

My list empowers me to take action so that, when something does manifest, I know it is the direct result of my efforts and not just luck. I can take full credit for the courage it took for me to do something new whether that's asking for help finding a new job, being willing to trust that life is a journey not a destination or trying something that in the past would have scared me such as risking criticism for expressing my ideas in writing. I will continue to manifest items on my list because prior successes give me the courage and determination to try to do something else in a new way -- even if my knees are knocking. Success is a learned and a repeatable process and it's something I teach my coaching clients.

If something on my Wish List doesn't manifest, I don't take it personally. I may have limiting beliefs that need to be identified and cleared before the time is right for my goal to come to fruition. Once I've done that, a whole new set of options will be revealed. In addition, having something not manifest, might be a blessing in disguise. There may be a better job around the corner, a soul mate whose more nurturing, a place to live that's even better than the one I included on my Wish List. I may have been setting the bar to low. So I gain insights and experience whether or not I get everything that I hope to manifest in the way I want, at the time I want it or in the form I want. I can't fail.

In December, I'm looking forward to reviewing my 2010 Wish List to celebrate all I've learned, gained and become and then it'll be time to creating a new Wish List.

Will there ever be an era of gender-equal politics and corporate leadership?

2010-03-04T23:55:00Z

I've been interested in politics and leadership for over 2 decades and the role of women doesn't seem to have changed very much.

Currently l'm pondering lots of ideas presented in Anne Kornblut's book, "Notes from the Cracked Ceiling...Hillary Clinton, Sarah Palin, and what it will take for a woman to win."

To quote the dust jacket of the book:

Kornblut identifies the surprising realities of gender politics, such as the harsh treatment female candidates often receive from women voters, the gap between the United States and other countries when it comes to the electability of women, the "mommy penalty" that handicaps women candidates with young children, and the special appeal that women with law enforecement backgrounds have with voters.

These issues existed before the women's rights movement and they still exist today. The only difference is now there are statistics to subtantiate the claims. I thought we'd moved further beyond gender stereotypes than was actually the case. I chalk that up to being an optimist who wants the best minds to work together to solve problems like poverty, hunger, access to health care, and the list goes on...no matter the gender of the body within which that mind is housed.

To become president, a woman has to have demonstrated leadership and that usually means as the CEO of a company or as a high-powered attorney in addition to having served as a governor, senator or member of the House of Representatives.

Here, too, gender plays a role. A recent HR journal stated that women have been set up for failure as leaders of corporations. They've been put in positions of leadership without a support system in place to ensure their success. It's like asking a person who just started jogging to run a marathon after only a few weeks of training while breaking in new running shoes. The jogger wouldn't have the experience and stamina to finish the race. That "failure" would be a function of the amount of time the person had for training and the efficacy of the training methodology rather than the jogger's abilities. For the jogger to become successful more quickly, the training process would have to change.

The same holds true for women who are put into positions of leadership to meet a requirement for diversity. How can they be expected to hit the ground running as a leader without training and to immediately demonstrate new skills without stumbling a time or two? What's sad is the fact that those stumbles are used as "proof" that women aren't effective leaders. It's time once again to question that assumption.

I thought we moved beyond sexism about a decade ago but I was mistaken. A woman still gets called a bitch if she displays the same characteristics that get a man labeled as a leader. If a woman shows her more nurturing and softer nature, she's seen as not being strong/tough enough for the job be that president of the United States of CEO of a fortune 500 company. She's in a "no win" situation and she's put there by men as well other women.

Currently there doesn't seem to be a middle ground. Women haven't been able to strike the right balance between feminity and toughness that's "socially acceptable". I look forward to the day when men and women are encouraged to develop the positive qualities that both sexes posses so they have a full range of characteristics, skills and feelings to choose from when there's a decision to be made. When there's more gender equality, we'll all benefit.

My Two New Teachers: Two Dogs

2009-10-21T20:02:00Z

I've been on the spiritual path for decades. I'm always reading the latest book, attending the newest workshop, listening to the most current CDs and working with wonderfully wise mentors, therapists, light workers. As part of my journey, I've learned that you never know who your next teacher will be nor how your paths will cross. Case in point.

My two newest teachers don't talk to me, don't judge me, don't make my life choices for me, don't try to get me to accept their point of view and they love me unconditionally. They are two dogs...one male and one female...and they belong to the wonderful woman in whose home I'm currently living. I moved here about 2 months ago when my coaching practice wasn't generating the same amount of money that it had in the past and I was forced to downsize. I was distressed and felt like a failure. Little did I know that everything was in Divine Right Order. If I hadn't moved, I wouldn't have gained insights that help me to experience more joy.

My two teachers, Allie and Addy, arrived about a month before I did so they'd gotten the lay of the land and could share their insights with me. All I had to do was to quiet my mind, get my ego out of the way, and "just be" in the presence of these wise creatures. They truly know how to life a satisfying life.

Here are ten of the important life lessons I've learned from my four-legged teachers.

1. You will be provided for. One way or another you will always have food to eat. It may not be the cuisine you're prefer, but you won't go hungry. You'll always have a place to sleep. It may not be as luxuious as you want, but you'll always find a place to sleep.

2. Make your own rules. Eat when you're hungry not when the clock strikes noon. Listen to your body. It knows what it needs and when it wants. Run because you want to run, not because "exercise is good for you." Give from your heart, not because it will make you look good in somebody else's eyes or to get something in return.

3. Allow others to love you. Just be your authentic self and be open to receiving love. You don't have to do anything to earn that love. All you need do is accept it when you feel like it and, if you want more a bit more loving, just ask for it.

4. Make basic choices and don't over think the outcome. What do you want to do in the moment? What do you know is intuitively right for you? Follow your innate wisedom.

5. Be willing to change. If you don't like what you find in one spot, just change directions and explore something new. You don't have to stay with a choice if it's no longer producing enjoyable results. And you don't have to justify your choices to anybody.

6. Diversity is a good thing. Men and women are innately different; they were designed that way. We each have aspects of the other gender within us and have the abililty to access those aspects when situations require them. Men can be nurturing and women can be leaders. Our environment helps to determine which characteristics we develop and which stay dormant, waiting to be activated. How boring life would be if every tree was exactly the same size, shape, color and species.

7. Let go of the struggle. After a tug-of-war over a desired treat, don't harbor ill-will towards the victor. Know that holding a grudge or being jealous doesn't feel good. Just move on and have a new adventure without carrying any feelings from the past into the new situation.

8. Show your enthusiasm. It's so much more fun to hang out with somebody whose positive and uplifting than someone who is non-demonstrative or, even worse, negative and judgmental. Life is meant to be enjoyed.

9. Live your life, don't just read about it. Move from living in your head to your heart to be fully present in the now and to have the most fun possible from moment to moment to moment. Allow your intuition to determine the right trail for you to follow and allow your mind to read the map or use the compass so your journey will be easy. Reading about how to run is far different from actually running.

10. Don't over do. Create balance between being and doing, between leading and following, and between alone and with others. Don't burn yourself out so you're too tired to do the fun things that you enjoy.

I am a perpetual student of life and look forward to learning many more lessons from my canine teachers. I'll be happy to pass along any new insights that I learn in the hopes that they inspire you to live your most joy-filled life.

Effort versus Intention

2009-10-20T17:11:00Z

I've been studying and practicing spiritual principles for over 20 years. I've read every book and article I could get my hands on. I've attended workshops, channeling sessions, and received healing therapy that ranged from accupunture to energy clearings and everything in between. I've done yoga, affirmations and journaling.

The more I've learned and experienced, the more questions I have. And I know, since I'm committed to continuous learning, there will be more questions to come. It's part of my evolutionary journey and leads me to more joy, prosperity and success.

Currently I'm pondering "effort versus intention" in regards to a variety of areas of my life. I just got my answer in an article written by Jennifer Hoffman.

In case you've been asking yourself the same question, here's the article.

Effort versus Intention

From the questions I have been receiving from many of you, I realize that there is some confusion about how to create that next step. Once you have learned your lessons and have their understanding, what do you do next? You do not want to create more lessons so you are careful about what you are manifesting. You have learned about effortlessness and sometimes wait for guidance and direction, which does not always come to you. This is frustrating because you are ready to more forward but that direction is not very clear. If you are at the point of effortless manifestation, do you have to do anything at all?

Is "no effort" the opposite of effort? If we can manifest effortlessly, does this mean we can just sit around doing nothing, waiting for the next thing to manifest? Not exactly. The opposite of creating through effort, where we work hard to make things happen, is not 'no effort', it is intention. Instead of working hard and pushing ourselves to create, we use our intention to manifest what we want. That sounds easy, we can sit around and think about what we want and it happens. Not exactly.

Intention is more than just thinking about having something and it appears. Intention requires faith and trust, our beliefs have to be aligned with our intention, we must be free of fear and detached from what we want to create, which leaves us open to the highest possible outcomes, miracles and blessings that are beyond our imagining. Intention requires patience because we are working at the level of all of humanity, the entire Universe and beyond. Manifesting through intention is working at the level of pure energy and creation at a quantum level, uniting our desires and the flow of the Universal energy to create in an effortless stream.

Using effort and hard work gives us the satisfaction that we are doing something. Intention requires some physical effort but beyond that, we have to trust that everything is moving forward even if we do not have immediate proof. And we must be willing to go through any doors that open, look at every opportunity that presents itself and decide whether it is aligned with what we want. With intention we create effortlessly because we are working at our highest level, being powerful, with faith and patience, aligned with our purpose and believing that miracles do happen, and they can happen for us.

It's not about the money!

2009-10-19T00:29:00Z

Yesterday I did some "free" energy work for an artist whose work I admire -- I even have a print of one of his earliest works hanging in my office and I use it for inspiration. It was all part of a magical day, divinely orchestrated and filled with wonderful "accidents".

Almost every time I'm in Sedona, I stop and get my soul recharged and my spirit refueled by visiting his gallery and just absorbing the beauty and energy that pours forth from each of his works. His art touches me at a soul level and brings joy-filled tears to my eyes. I've been doing this for more than twenty years. I've met the artist on several occasions and that's always a special treat. As part of my special day yesterday, I had the rare opportunity to spend almost an hour with him.

The artist has a new gallery in west Sedona and came in while I was the only customer in the store. As he came through the front door, I recognized him immediately and was awe-struck much as somebody would be if they were able to spend quality time with a favorite musician, actor, writer, etc. The woman who manages the gallery said that he rarely comes into this gallery. I felt very blessed.

We talked a great deal about the evolution of his style. He showed me his most recent works and told me about a fantastic project that he's spearheading to create a fabulous pyramid in Arizona to unite Mother Earth with the star nations. His new style is even more powerful that his earlier one and that's say a great deal.

As we were talking, I "knew" he needed some energy work so I asked him if he'd be open to receiving it. He agreed and energy kept pouring through my hands -- I couldn't get enough into his physical body fast enough -- it felt like the energy was being sucked out of my hands by a person who'd been lost for a very long time and was dying of thirst. During the flowing of universal energy through me to him (I'm just the vehicle for the energy, not the source), I got a very clear, large and bright image of a lightening bolt. I shared this image with him and was told that he has a great affinity for lightening bolts. That was confirmation for both of us that we were on the same "wavelength." I also share with him some other insights I received while channeling energy to him.

What blew me away was when he thanked me for MY talents and said he was honored to receive the gift. He said it with complete sincerity, gratitude and great appreciation. He was mirroring back to me exactly the same sentiments I have about his work. He appreciated what I do as much as I appreciate what he does. I know the Law of Attraction was at work!

So, although I didn't get paid in money for using my gifts, I got paid in a much more valuable currency...love, gratitude and appreciation from the center of someone's heart. I feel very wealthy indeed.

(In respect to his privacy, I have intentionally not used the artist's name.)

Divine Right Order

2009-09-08T02:26:23Z

I spend a lot of time talking with people, emailing people and just observing people. I've noticed that many of us are traveling parallel paths dealing with transitions in our lives and many of us are holding fast to the knowledge that everything happens in Divine Right Order.

Sometimes I wish the process of change/transition/growth was faster but that's just the scared kid in me responding out of fear. The adult in me knows that there is no time table for anything and that everything will lead me to where I need to go…or, more accurately, where I need to be. I'm really learning to "just be" fully in all the experiences in my life even when the scared little kid wants to run and hide behind a strong adult. I'm learning that I have to be the strong adult for my little kid and, that each time I take care of myself, my adult gains confidence and my kid calms down. I also am learning that there are at least two gifts in every situation – one for the “giver” and the other for the “receiver.” Each gift comes in Divine Right Order and involves letting God speak through our actions.

Sometimes it's a gift that I have to give someone else, and sometimes it's a gift that somebody has to give me, since giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. Since I'm currently recovering from a “growth opportunity” and haven’t been seeing clients, that means there are still gifts I have to give and gifts I am to receive right here, right now.

For my friends, the gift they’ve received from me is my serving as an example of how to have patience and trust God, even as though I have been experiencing many sensations in my body. (I decided I liked the term “sensations” better than “pain” because “pain” has a negative connotation. In actuality, “pain” is not positive or negative; it just is. It’s my mind that chooses to see it as positive, negative or neutral and I’ve chosen to experience it as neutral.)

As a professional “worrier,” my calmness and my gratitude has astonished both my friends and me. I’ve completely surrendered the situation over to God and am very peaceful while, at the same time, I’m feeling sensations in many parts of my body simultaneously. I’m actually very proud of the way I am living moment-to-moment-to-moment instead of worrying about the future. Each moment is all there is NOW and it’s in the present where I make decisions about how I want to experience an event. That choice then leads to what I experience in the future. It’s much easier to explain this process then to actually live it. Because to live it means I have to feel ALL emotions and sensations associated with it in “real time.” It took me a long time to get to where I am “now” and I’ve taken the time to pat myself on the back – using my left hand, of course – for my courage. I’m proud of what I am doing.

For me, the gifts I’ve received from my friends are the result of their serving as God’s earth angels. For example, a friend came over on Thursday and cleaned my apartment. In so doing, she noticed that my refrigerator was almost empty. So on Friday, she called and said that she would go marketing for me. I was ecstatic. I was astonished and grateful when she refused to let me pay for the groceries. This morning, she and her husband came over. They stocked my refrigerator and then proceeded to do the cleaning that wasn’t completed on Thursday. She felt good about helping me out and I felt good about her listening to her intuition and deciding what else I might need. She was an answer to an unexpressed prayer. And her timing was perfect!

I'm open to all the opportunities that God has in store for me and I KNOW all will be revealed to me in Divine Right Order. If I get my ego out of the way, God really is providing for me; it’s just come packaged differently than I imagined. It makes the waiting so much easier when I can be of service to others by documenting my experiences in my blog.

It’s my belief that we will succeed by walking the path of change together. I intend to listen to my inner voice so I can be an earth angel for somebody else. I’ve always known how good it feels to give and now I know how good it feels to receive. Without a “receiver, there isn’t a “giver.” You need both a “giver” and a “receiver” for things to happen in Divine Right Order.

Divine Right Order

2009-09-08T02:20:00Z

As an intuitive success coach, I spend a lot of time talking with people, emailing people and just observing people. I've noticed that many of us are traveling parallel paths dealing with transitions in our lives and many of us are holding fast to the knowledge that everything happens in Divine Right Order.

For me, the gifts I’ve received from my friends are the result of their serving as God’s earth angels. For example, when I couldn't raise my right hand any higher than my waist, a friend voluntarily came over and cleaned my apartment. In so doing, she noticed that my refrigerator was almost empty. So, the next day, she called and said she'd gone marketing for me and was on her way to restock my refrigerator and thereby nourish my soul . I was ecstatic, astonished and grateful when she refused to let me pay for the groceries. She felt good about helping me out and I felt good about her listening to her intuition and deciding what, in addition to help with my chores, I might need. She was an answer to an unexpressed prayer. And her timing was divine! Had my friend not offered to do my household chores for me, she wouldn't have known that I needed food and my refrigerator would have stayed empty for a longer period of time.